He also told me that I should not push her to take my son, that everytime she leaves him with me it a bonus point for custody if it comes to that.
Since things have taken a turn, I agree with your lawyers advice about not trying to force responsibility on her. Your best move is to let her go, and focus on you and your child. It doesn't end the hurt right away, but it gives you direction instead of sitting back and wondering if she'll come back. When you really let go emotionally, you will be able to move forward and make new friends and get involved in new activities........and you don't have to check with someone else to see if it's alright. Know what I mean? There is a freedom that you can enjoy, if you keep your eyesight straight ahead.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
