I just skimmed through this so i apologize in advance if I end up making any unfair assumptions...
You have a 9 and 11 year old? What is in their best interest right now? Is their any family social workers or counselors that can offer you advise on how to proceed. Will you be visiting them every weekend after your move? What are you doing right now to meet their needs, during this very tumultuous time.
You mentioned you wanted your wife to see what it was like living like a single mom. Well, She probably has already if you had an addiction issue.
You mentioned that you wanted her to consider what it would be like missing out on them for the entire summer....to be honest, that comment really did not sit well with me. No mother wants to be separated from their kids because dad is capable of leaving state permanently to make his life easier. And that is in no way ideal for kids. The way you posted that here, to me doesn't sit well. It sounded more punitive then anything else.
