We started dating when we were 15. He's manipulated me from the beginning and I was very naive. I thought everything was fine for 6 months, aside from a couple of red flags. (He had been smoking since he was 13 and I had caught him in some lies.) We had started dating in December, and for Christmas I had got a diamond ring and tennis bracelet from my mom. I just loved this set. He started wearing my ring on a chain around his neck shortly after and he wore it every day. I thought it was so romantic. After we had been dating 6 months, suddenly my ring was gone. He said he lost it. A few days later, I was telling his friend about my ring and he told me he knew where it was. He said his mom had it and my future H had gave it to her. I was devastated! Turns out he actually sold it to her for drugs. (I had no clue he did drugs or what different kinds of drugs there even were in the world.) So i tried to scrape up $20 to buy it back from her, and I was only able to come up with, between me and my sister, $14 and some hoop earrings to trade. So I walked over there and prayed the whole way she would accept my deal, and she did. I got my ring back. So the next day, my H (bf at the time) walked over my house and we went for our daily walk and talk all the while I could not wait for him to see the ring on my finger. I could see him eyeballing it so I broke up with him. I was done! He began to cry and beg and beg, promising me to quit all drugs and be a great guy to me, etc. He laid it on so thick and I was a sucker and took him back. In my heart, I knew this was not good, but my heart felt so much pain. I could not believe how in love I already was at a young age. Even though I was saving myself for marriage and he knew this, I had already lost my virginity to him. He told me he was a virgin too. I just found out recently that was not the truth. He revealed this bomb maybe a year ago, but told me the other day while drunk that he had already slept with two other people before me. Also, when I found out at 15 he was doing drugs, I found he had cheated on me as well. He has been trouble from the beginning with periods of what seems to be some straightening up. I will add more to this later.
Another thing he told me the other day while drunk on vacation (we are still on vacation currently), is that he has never been in love with me. That I was a trophy to him because I was a cheerleader and he was an outcast, that he had what everyone else wanted. That he would have done anything to keep me in the past because of basically the rewards I brought him. Pretty much, I'm just an object. And that he knows that he'll continue to have sex with me after our divorce, and the more I tell him no, the more he wants it. Ive noticed he doesn't seem to want it when I do, and it's been like this for years.
