Thank you Hawho and Bttrfly, I really appreciate your kind words and encouragement.
We've had lots of contact this week. I had to go out of town for work the beginning of the week and she stayed at my house w/the kids. Before I left she told me to have a safe trip (I had to go to a terrible place that's hard to believe exists in the states). This is the first time since before BD she's even asked or cared where I'm going. She also talked to me a few minutes after I talked w/the kids one night.
I'm doing a lot of listening and can see she's still out there. The day I got home she chaperoned S on a field trip to the zoo. When she came over she told me how terrible it was, how she decided she didn't like other kids (not her old self, sounds like mlc friend to me), etc. she must have been so overwhelmed. She vented quite a bit and talked to me a lot, she was at my house for about 3 hours but was getting in her phone a lot.
She asked if I could pick up the kids yesterday because she was stuck w/a customer so she was over again last night. She ate dinner and vented and talked to me a lot again. She was very upset because her boss cleaned off her desk while she was gone the day before. I validated her being upset about that and listened even though she kept getting on her phone. She mentioned having the kids stay here tonight because we got/we're getting a lot of snow and it would be easier for her Saturday morning. I just told her whatever was fine. She also texted me later that night about her dryer she just got and a couple times today, once for a joke and the other business.
I left work early today and stopped by the store for a few things. While I picking out apples she came up behind me and gave me a surprise "hey". We talked a couple minutes and she invited me to go eat w/her and the kids and asked about them staying w/me tonight and said they were complaining about never sleeping in. I met them at dinner late and didn't eat but bought desert for us. The kids went and played and we talked quite awhile then they came back to my house a few minutes before she left. I couldn't help but wonder if she had plans but she kept saying she was going to do laundry and go to bed, maybe it is true I know she has trouble getting ready in the morning because the kids are always impressed when I get them to school on time and I got a letter from the school that they have 10 tardies. She's been telling me what she's been doing and her plans lately. Lots of listening on my part. Trying to keep zero expectations because who knows what she's thinking.
The kids and I had a good night, we made snowmen and had a snowball fight. I've noticed D acts different w/W around. She has her moments w/me but acts really hyper, baby talks, misbehaves, throws fits, etc a lot more when W is present. I just don't let her do that w/me. I think she's frustrated and needs attention. Both kids are usually better after being w/me awhile. It usually takes a day or so to get back to the swing of things.
