25yearsmlc 10 Yrs Later I File D part 3

[25yearsmlc]

I mean "chat" as in messaging back and forth online. Also, one other reason not to give out your phone number until after that first short coffee date - dick pics. Yeah, they're a thing.

Online is just like being at a party and bumping into someone interesting. The coffee date is that part where you sit down on the sofa at the party and talk to each other a little bit. THEN if you're still interested you can give him your number and hopefully he'll call for a real date.

Nice analogy.

Excessive chatting online can lead to feeling like you're already starting a relationship - making the gap between fantasy and reality all the more crushing when you meet in real life (and stickier to get out of).

Wow, that makes sense. The photos are another thing, b/c my sister met a guy who was WAY Off his photos. Other than the 40lb difference he simply did not look like the photo at all. I did not recognize him when i met him, and I had seen the photos.

*Why set yourself up for meeting & seeing someone visibly disappointed??*

I can see why it would be harder to extricate after too many talks on the phone.

Expectations of sex are...what? Forget the articles that ALL say "depends"...

I just want to know how long I can put it off IF I want to keep the R going (and if I don't then it's a non issue). Is there an expectation that after 3 dates you are "leading them on"??