You guys aren't going to beleive this 4

[25yearsmlc]

Hi Sotto!

I can't imagine following her to another state after she dumped me for the third time.
In fact, that's kind of insulting to me. No thanks, I dont think I would ever be able to recover my self esteem after doing that.

Boy this^^^ is so TRUE. Take it in. She'd have you out there and you WILL have another fight and she has a pattern and the best predictor of future behavior is past.
Not to mention how close her mother would be...Ugh

Oh Thornton, if I could go back in time...

Regarding GAL - yes, it's time I start pursuing that right away. I just bought a new truck and I've been looking at kayaks. I used to be an avid fisherman but I would like to have a fishing kayak so I can get out the good parts of the resevoirs I plan to fish.

Also looking at Mountain Bikes so I can drive up into the Rocky Mountains and find some cool trails.

Any GAL involving other people? It'd help your loneliness factor and you said it's something you wanted to work on.

You also mentioned your own pattern of "getting dumped" and being devastated and then going into another relationship.

IN this r, you' have been left 3 times... Why would this be any different? Forget the tears.

I'm still struggling with social things though. I keep an eye on Meetup.com but there is literally nothing that appeals to me there. It's either quilting groups, or the bar-hopping scene, and even furries (google it if you've never heard of them).


Wow, really? Where do you live? I saw zero bar hopping groups and I have joined a writer's group. Also there is a film group I'm interested in too, so if you are too shy, you can watch and then discuss the film so there's a topic. And there are acting groups and theaters to do crew work if you like back stage stuff.

Sports teams to join, lessons to take, musical instruments to study, volunteer work,
and more.

Thornton,

IF there is a chance for your m to work out, it'd be by really being apart and I mean NOT near her mother and Not by you moving across country. That would greatly increase your dependence on her.

And you'd be away from your d.

I can see zero reason to join her and it reminds me of H going off to Alaska and expecting me to join him, again.

Thank God I didn't b/c that state would have $ucked for me legally if we divorced

and what if he was was OW then? Not cool.

At least I have a support system here...

I cannot emphasize enough how bad an idea it would be for you to join her.

She can return to you if she is truly a different woman IN TIME, but I would expect her to date and deny it

and to temperature check after she leaves...

I'd also expect her to change the date of her move b/c she's "not sure" again...

Your growth is affecting her so keep it up. NOT b/c it's affecting her but b/c it's good for you

and yes, from a DB standpoint it is working.