Well one minor update. She finally sent the NC letter to the other man and I verified it's a valid email address. Not so ironically it is the same as the username for the Kik messenger app she used for awhile. Bingo---another dot connected, another lie revealed.
Well anyhow, it was a pretty poor NC letter but it did say what it needed to say so I will take that as a tiny shuffle in the right direction. I still have very little hope of things working out but I'll hang in there a bit longer to see where this scary adventure takes me.
Just remember..believe none of what she says and half of what she does. Yes she sent the letter, but she may have already warned the OM that it was coming. That said just watch her actions. I hope this works out. Your story is so similar to mine its scary. I was where you where a year ago. I never was able to get her to send the NC letter, and I eventually gave up. I hope and pray for you that she is shuffling her feet in the right direction. Be patient, its soo hard I know, you just want it all to be fixed immediately and that is just not realistic. Now STFU and GAL. Sandi's post on what you should be doing is so spot on! Do all those things, it will pay off in the long run. Good luck brother, keep fighting the fight.
M 21 years XW 43yo, me 41 yo S13 BD March 2016 - she asked me to patient... End of June - I started the D process. D final 2/23/17 "He who forgets will be destined to remember" Eddie Vedder
