First, I'm not a psychiatrist, so I'm speculating, okay?
But my guess is that medication alone would NOT fix her PPD, and it is clear that you guys have marital issues that are playing a role in her perspective. Are you saying she's not getting any form of individual counseling or therapy?
Are you? That's not an insult. I just restarted in fact.
As for the NG syndrome, it's easily misunderstood. No offense, but there can be elements of it that lead to "covert contracts" in which you do what you see as your "job" (which is your work). So then you expect all of your needs met. Even needs you do not express. And Never mind your w's needs...
Your wife is taking care of a baby all day, and if you come home and are not helpful enough, then she's basically on call for him 24/7.
Hey, I freaking LOVE my kids, & am grateful for the years I was able to stay at home.
But it's not like babies say "thank you, mom" or give you promotions or pats on the back. Heck, they don't even let you eat your lunch or go to the bathroom by yourself. Literally. One of the things I loved about my job was drinking coffee while it was still warm...
While being a SAHM, I didn't eat a hot undistracted meal (wherein I could use both hands), in the daytime, for years.
It's draining, and can be extremely under valued. I noticed you stressed that you are the "sole provider".
It almost sounded as if you thought it was a given, that your job was harder or more important and vital than hers, as if she was just home all day eating bon bons while you worked at a "real job".
My reaction is that she was the sole provider of child care, and you were the income earner. I know you're thinking "25 is female so...she's biased" And there's some truth to that, but I would assume you want female input, & I've done both SAH and worked full time with kids, so here you have some female feedback.
As for you being too passive and not wanting rejection...here are some concerns with that...
Sometimes being "too passive" is code for saying you let your wife do all the heavy lifting in the M.
Just food for thought.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
