and your wife has a new baby and is a stay at home mom. And she has diagnosed post partum depression, (PPD) which most men do not understand well.
In this moment, I just realized that I had assumed that with the Lexapro, that she had overcome the post partum depression. But has she really? I do not know.
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
what is it you want to work on in you?
I have come to realize that I am a nice guy, and suffer from what Dr. Robert Glover calls "Nice Guy Syndrome". I try to please others in the hope that they will then please me. With the hope that life will be easy and calm. I do not advocate for, and assert myself and my needs for fear that I will be rejected. Because of this I have become a very passive person, a passenger along for the ride. And because I don't get my needs met, I have nothing to give, I have become shallow worrying about others. I need to get in the drivers seat, understand what I want and need, and get it. Then I will be in a position to share myself.
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
HOW can you become a man only a fool would leave?
I need to be stronger, more assertive, more in charge, show leadership, show a passion and energy from within that is infectious.
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
how can you support your wife with her PPD and other issues SHE has raised?
I can listen, I can hear her. I can communicate to her what I am thinking and feeling, I can have the strength to stand in front of her, and say what I think and feel, without fear of her emotions. With the knowledge that whatever her reaction is, I can handle it.
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
What do you think SHE would say if she were here?
She wanted and needed an equal partner. She felt she built the relationship because I always let her take the lead and didn't speak what I thought or was feeling. She needed me to give her myself fully instead of in such a shallow way.
