Her issues with our marriage are my passiveness, convict avoidance, and lack of leadership. She feels that she has built the entire relationship and it is no irreparable. I have begun addressing these issue aggressively in therapy and owe a lot of help the the book ... She sees it as too little, too late. She had asked me to address these issues in therapy 6 months ago, which I attempted but was not focused enough or successful enough as I was also dealing with the stresses of a bad job, being a father, and sole provider of our family.
and within 4 other posts, you said you wanted to call her on her BS.
What is the BS?
And can you tell us what you think HER life is like when you come home?
Here is something I saw my BIL do that really struck a chord in me. He returned home after a long day at the job, and being a sole provider. (My sister was a SAHM with 2 kids then. She did not have PPD like your w). The first thing my BIL asked her when he arrived home, was what he could do that would help Her the most, doing dinner or handling the kids.
SHE had the option. He was giving her a break. He really appreciated her efforts and today their kids are happy and well adjusted. Sister and BIL have a solid, happy m. It's going on 30 years now. That moment in time made quite the impression on me.
I've been a SAHM, I've been a full time working mom. Looking back, I know both options were hard b/c moms feel guilty about their kids at work and they feel unappreciated and under valued as SAHMs...
For me, going to work and then returning home to care for the kids, was easier. But I think it's mostly my being a SAHM that has assured my kids they are loved.
Just some thoughts that might help you dig a bit.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
