Newbie trying to gain control

[LiM]

Listen to what Sandi says. She's playing you. Drop the rope, deploy the LRT and go DARK. With a WW, you've got to be firm. So long as she is W, you are not her H. The A has got to die before you have any shot are R the M. Until she shows genuine remorse, she is still a WW. Its at that point that the real work begins.

I would follow LH19's advice. Dont tell her you snooped but tell her you don't wish to continue MC so long as she is in contact with OM. She will lie and tell you she's not but you don't have to explain how you know. It is a waste of time and money to go to MC right now. You can't "nice" her back into the M. Spend this time working on you. Become the man she would be a fool to leave.