Yes I've been trying to work on myself and this I understand completely. It isn't easy though as right now it is tough to be motivated to do much of anything. I ensure the children are cared for but that makes it tough to find time for myself.
When we do have relationship conversations, which is rare, she keeps telling me that I am making a mountain out of a molehill and that things aren't as bad as I make them to be. I try to paint the picture I see from my end and tell her to put herself in my shoes but that obviously isn't much of a concern to her right now.
Derek - I commented on your second thread, and thought I would read back through your first. My gosh this sounds exactly like what my XW said. It hurts to hear that they have no Empathy for what you are going through, in fact until it happens to them they won't. Good luck sir, your going to need it. Do your homework and do your best not to fall into her traps, do you right now and let her have her space.
M 21 years XW 43yo, me 41 yo S13 BD March 2016 - she asked me to patient... End of June - I started the D process. D final 2/23/17 "He who forgets will be destined to remember" Eddie Vedder
