Wife wants divorce, but hasn't said divorce

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Standing up for yourself, boundaries and calling her on her BS, are things that give her reason to respect you. Doormats get no respect. That is why you are in this situation. But understand the difference between enforcing a boundary and controlling. You can control yourself and how you react when a boundary is crossed. Demanding her to do something is controlling. You can't control her, only you.

Always remember ACTIONS are strong, WORDS are weak. And saying something just to get a reaction is super weak.