"When all the people you cared for in the past 9 years since your husband left you for another woman end up leaving you when things are about to get serious, it does damage and the damage gets worse every single time. "
I know you're hurting right now and feeling defeated. It's never easy. But I see something that you might want to take a close look at in the future (not now). I'm a firm believer that things don't just keep happening to us! Are you seeking out these experiences/partners (not consciously, of course)? As one who works in the helping profession (and has messed up enough himself) I know that negative experiences don't just keep happening and we are not just helpless beings that fate acts upon! I look at my friends and sometimes want to scream "you're dating the same person over and over!"...and it never seems to end well for them. Look at the person who keeps ending up with an addictive or abusive partner...is it likely that it's a fluke that all their partners have the same issues? I think not. It's worth thinking about. I do think you made some positive strides this time but I know when I look back on my past experiences (as limited as they are) I now see that there were things I should have paid attention to (and DB friends warned me too...I remember KML telling me`once `when a woman tells you she can be mean, believe her!) and I dismissed them and ended up having the same experience. I try to do be more aware now and cut loose any contact who seems to be more of the same. For example, I made a wonderful contact recently with a lady who was into photography, sang on her church praise team, was funny, intelligent...but in chatting I found out that she left her nice government job a few months ago and was seeking a new direction. My brain screamed `she`s perfect, you can nurture and support her and she`ll need you!``I nicely moved on...and she understood! OK, enough babble lol. I believe that we repeat patterns and YOU are saying that there is a nine year pattern here. Think about it. I hope you feel better soon, you're on a rollercoaster right now... but remember, you are loved!
