..goin' down the only road I've ever known

[DonH]

I would encourage you to look at how you throw your whole self into a relationship so readily (I know you see it as a virtue) because in my experience people who get everything handed to them on a platter don't value it much...they take it for granted. I think that's human nature. So moving slower might actually enhance the quality of your relationships. It's not about playing head games versus being real, it's about protecting yourself. Think about it.

I also wanted to react to this great comment as I totally agree. One thing I know I will TRY to remember if I even happen to land in an R again is not to take it for granted, how I would want to remember how rare it is to find the right person. On the other side, I have a couple women pursuing me right now. They are just not my type, plus one is married for crying out loud. But even the single one, I know I don't have to try at all and she will be there. It's not a turn-on by any means. I'm not saying I'd try an R with her if she were not as "easy" (not in a sexual way either) but there is certainly no chance as it is. It's like she doesn't even value herself enough, why would I? Guys and women as well, often want what they can't have and don't value anything they do. I still keep in touch with V from out of state and I would so totally value her. Part is because there is a chemistry and attraction there but the other is she has in no way just given herself to me. I'm willing to bet if she were like this other women, even with the attraction, I may not be interested - or as interested.

Is this game playing? Is this something wrong with me? Perhaps, but I more think. just like wii wrote, it's just human nature. It's in many ways the core of why DBing tends to work (when it does work). Going all in so fast doesn't only put your heart at risk, I really think it puts the R at risk. There really is a lot to be said about all of this. All are good reasons to alter course in the future.