Everything about this is hard. I am guessing the hardest thing you have ever done in your life right?

I wouldn't admit to snooping. I would just say I don't think MC is a good idea right now while you are in contact with OM.

**When we communicate it has gone better lately and I am just very leery of doing anything to cause a negative conversation.**

Your being driven by fear. (I know I have been there) You are not the one in an A you should not worry about her reaction.

What are your boundaries? What will you tolerate or not tolerate from your wife?