HaWho - I love your advice. I am going to give that a try. Ignoring the comments hasn't deterred him. Perhaps he isn't even aware of the PA nature of the comments; I have read people who use this coping mechanism lack self awareness. By asking him what he means, this may give him pause. AND it's something different since what I am doing doesn't seem to be working for me. Doing nothing is starting to cause me to feel like a door mat.
My SIL, H's youngest sister, and her H are divorcing. Her H has moved into an apartment with his OW, but continues to deny the ongoing relationship to SIL and all their family and friends. SIL's H has turned into a man I barely recognize. Like my H, he looks the same appearance-wise, but the actual man we all knew, is gone. SIL texted me today that they put their house on the market. She is devastated.
SIL H's has repeated the same script. Not happy for years, never should have gotten married, etc. etc. It's all pure script.
It's all just so sad that people can blow up their lives like this. My heart aches for all the pain and suffering she is enduring. If anyone knows, all of us here do.
