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Yes I agree - we all have choices all of the time. So, she didn't like the way you spoke to her. That's fair enough....so what might she have chosen to do?

Let you know that when you said X, she felt hurt, belittled, angry, upset - and ask you not to say that again.

Ask to talk to you about the argument that was had - and how you guys could better resolve disagreements on things.

Say to you - hey I think you, me, we might benefit from some therapy to help us better deal with this. I feel concerned about us deepening the R at this point - given what happened - but I don't want us to part..

She might have apologised for her part in the argument, and then you both calmly discuss what happened and move forward.

I'm sure there are further permutations..

So, I agree - the words 'forced me' and 'no choice' are her perceptions - she feels - I could not have done anything else, given all circumstances..and maybe she felt that strongly. But we all have choices nonetheless...

As for how you feel - it's not surprising. Part of you (part of all of us) remains that scared little child, and you don't want to go 'back there.' But you are better able to cope now - all grown up and more resourceful. You may find this difficult, but you will also be able to cope and move forward..

I certainly wouldn't give her any commitment to - yes what you hope for may work. I would let her go, keep moving forward and see where you are at in a little while. Because at this point nothing has really changed and (IMHO) you are still in 'unsustainable' territory...

Hope this helps anyway my friend