Gosh, just looking back at your previous thread and the void at the very centre of my heart comment. XH said such a similar thing to me in the months after BD - it stands out to me as the most impassioned thing he said to me - that he had a void at the very centre of his soul...

These two things alone - the alcohol use and this statement - really suggest he wasn't in such a great place. And I agree they were red flags..

I guess the thing to reflect on is why the red flags weren't waving at you? If he hadn't ended things, you may have carried on in a R with a guy who had some substantial issues...?

Worth looking at anyway - and I do agree with Don and with KML - you may just have had a lucky break here - I know it may not feel like it just now..

Anyway - enjoy your daughter, your home, your work and friends..there is always much in life for us to be grateful for..

Xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus