Based on my wife's cousin's advice, I took our son over to her uncle's house, dropped him off with her, and then took her credit cards. whoah....wow. That's a really huge thing to do without legal advice. Is the cousin a lawyer? And that's such a controlling thing to do and I'm shaking my head.
Ask Chuck if that will get her closer to you or resenting you more. FWIW, I'm not sure when I'd have filed exactly (a 35 year marriage with 3 kids)
but when I noticed h closed a mutual credit card, I filed the next day.
He had had a very long conversation with her and told me that she thinks she can do whatever she wants and I will watch our son and finance her. He felt that I should shake her out of her fog and back into reality by showing her that if we get divorced, it's gonna be hard, she will have to take care of our son, she won't have my money (she's never had a job before) and she won't have my car. It was hard but it did feel right.
next time ask your DB coach b/c your goal WAS to save the m, not punish your w or "teach her a lesson." As my DB coach once said "it's not our job to teach lessons to our spouse, life does that."
Your w was going to live with her wacky uncle, which is odd obviously. But didn't sound expensive. Was she bankrupting you?
She was furious, but I didn't engage and just went home and went to bed. Don't worry about our son, she is a good mom, she is just being selfish right now.
call Chuck again, please. And don't take anymore financial or legal action without knowing the consequences first
or at least anticipating them.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
