Hi 25, I'm so sorry you had such a rough weekend & what a horrible thing to happen. It's not surprising you got back to your new place and felt overwhelmed. I can remember feeling the same and the feelings do pass.

As for dating - actually I just passed my 'one year out from divorce' timescale and so I achieved what I set out to do in terms of waiting before dating...not that I feel that interested in OLD or similar just now....but if someone nice asked me out I might be open.

I hope you don't mind me saying, but you sound so much in the maelstrom of divorce proceedings and still raw - too early to think about dating IMHO. Though people do start at your stage and each to their own of course. Though I never saw one person post and say - heck I wish I'd started dating sooner. But I have seen many people post that they did start too soon - before they were ready and could start a healthy relationship.

My advice would be - wait to date, deal with business, keep the forward movement and plan new things just for you - activities you will enjoy, outings with friends etc. Enjoy making your new place your own and look after yourself during this trying period. It too shall pass..

Xx

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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus