Hi RAI - I'll keep my fingers crossed for you and hope the judge is fair to you.
I had started to feel like KNOWING what I would have, even if it was less than what I thought I needed, was something I could work with, and WONDERING what I would have was unbearably stressful. That was what finally got me out of the 2012-2017 limbo.
THIS^^^^^
it's the limbo. My h has quit his new "GREATEST JOB EVER!" to avoid paying me support. Sees no contribution from me to his career
(h was a veterinary student when we married, then a veterinarian, then we had a child, then he was a med student, then we had a 2nd child, then he was an intern, resident, staff and then we had a 3rd child and then h did a fellowship. And I went thru law school and worked till we had child #3. We moved 9-12 times, (*depending on how you count a move---
To see, in writing, that "25 did nothing to further my career"...really hurts at a gut level.
Sure, we can say it's insane and distorted, and believe it, but it still stings. So does hearing that he's "in a r" on fb, while we are still married. He NOW posts on fb often, with photos of them kissing in Mexico..."SO HAPPY NOW"
as if I was his big obstacle...
But for me, it's the financial limbo that seems to hinder forward movement b/c I don't really KNOW what I can count on.
Hmm, like my marriage...
I do look forward to the limbo ending soon. At least my h's behavior has helped me move faster thru the grief b/c he's being such an a$$ that I think it'll be easier not to miss him.
The h i once knew, loved and married, is for all intents and purposes, dead to me. Not coming back. Now, that knowledge certainty actually helps my forward progress more than hurts.
Do I hope he'll someday really regret things?? Of course. I have an ego.
But I also know what matters most in my life is MY PATH...and h is not on it.
please keep posting Adinva!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
