Hi G! Happy belated Mother's Day! I am so very sorry you are hurting so much. I wish there was something we could all say or some magic potion we could give you that would make it go away, but sadly, we all know that is not really how the world works.

I have to say I agree with Don. I don't see how any good could come from your meeting FF in person and it seems to just be prolonging the pain. I'm not in your head nor do I want to try and speak for you, but while I think it's noble for you to want to be his true friend and help him through his stuff, you have to take care of G first and I don't think being there for him allows you to do that properly. There may be a time, in the future, where you can develop a real, true friendship with this man, but right now I think your hurt and grief is too fresh. Take care of YOU, G and let FF take care of him.

My heart breaks for you, lady....prayers that you will find your way soon.


Me 52, H53
Bomb drop 9/29/2014
Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014
Marriage #2 12/31/2019
5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships)
6 grandkids