Hi Sellout, in one of the newbie readings I believe it says to never give away any DB or LRT tactics. They're for you only. That seems to be what you're asking about? In my situation my W can care less about how I am processing things.
Also, be careful about what you interpret. I have not fully learned this yet but interpret nothing of your WS words and only some of their actions. This is what I'm currently stuck on.
I think you did the right thing with the Mothers Day gift. Similar to the approach I took. My W even told me not to acknowledge it.
Me46 W46 M25yrs T29yrs 4 children ILYBNILWY 1/30/17 PA confronted 3/6/17 Separated same house