Just read the last few post in your thread. You have demonstrated some significant growth.
This is what I'll say about dating. I almost posted to you the other day, but felt the timing wasn't right.
Earlier this week, the email from your W was like a Mike Tyson uppercut. Not that it was rude, but the main point that all of us LBSes focus on. She said that she felt it was best to go your separate ways. Yeah, that hurts to the core.
So before dating, I suggest to feel all of the pain and hurt to the fullest. I believe those emotions have to be processed. If they are suppressed, they will resurface.
I have mentioned that it took me 13 months from 1st BD to completely detach. That's when it was confirmed that my W was in a relationship with OM. Something that I suspected, but didn't want to believe. When I had this information, I went through the anger, the sadness and the hurt. Two months later, I started dating someone.
I dated someone during our second separation too. Honestly, I could easily have seen a future with the second GF. Point being, the future can and will be bright, because you choose for it to be.
Unfortunately, with dating, comes the possibility of people getting hurt and complicating your sitch. And you have to be aware that feelings change. Like mine and like my W's.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
