wow.. thanks Pax. You are so more elegant with words than I am.
Those are great questions and thoughts to really make me think. I think I have learned a lot through all of this. If things work out with WW... your comment about unlearning is huge. I have to unlearn... she would have to unlearn. It would have to be a whole new relationship with both of us on board.
It would be easier with someone new oddly enough because I did give up a lot of myself. In that same class that I mentioned in your thread, the question was asked, what makes you you... what is your best quality. My answer to that questions is so embarrassing now. My answer was... "being a great husband". The professor was like... what? And she tried to get me to see that that was not a good thing. By the end of the class, with BD in the middle, I understood what she was trying to say. I had lost my sense of self. So the goods news is because of all of this, I think I have found that.
In some ways, I wish that WW had just pushed for D a while ago. When I first came to this site, I saw people who had been in for 2 years and still in a limbo state. I thought how is that possible? There is no way I will be there.... and here I am.
