I am with my youngest now for Mother's Day so can't really reply.
But 2 things
IF IF IF
Your wife hears about the make out session with your "new gf", don't assume that she knows of or believes ' that you said you are not ready. But I know why you hate that part, truly I do. The only reason I want to date now - which is why I won't - is b/c I hated h's note that he hopes I've "MOVED ON" ---- seriously? If he'd been there I'd have slapped his face, (verbally)
IMO, it's the making out your w will focus on (actions) AND do not be fooled into thinking "Oh no, now she will think I moved on and...and..."
It's all good!
But 2)
dang, you live in too small a town.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016