Hey SKM, your H did sound confused especially saying he didn't want to take everything as it would be so final. If he wanted D why would that be an issue?!! I don't think your H wants to let go of you but his pride is getting in the way of taking any steps towards you. JMHO...

We haven't had an update from you recently SKM, how's it going anyway?

OwnIt. I think I understand what you are saying. There really isn't anything I do that will influence my H returning it's all down to him? However I guess DB is about not making it worse so in case there is a chance... I think I have read
Hope 06, but I've read so many I can't keep track!!!

I like your confession. Secretly I think your H will come back too. IMHO he seems a bit like a petulant child acting up to show you he doesn't care. But he does and the less attention you show him the less fuel he has for their fire..

Journaling. Feeling a little tearful today. It was D's last day at school before her exams so the end of an era. I bought her a card and a small bottle of bubbly to mark the occasion and left it in her room for when she got back from school. She said she cried when she read the card. I reminded her of when she started school at the age of four and one day she came home in her summer dress and when I was getting her ready for her bath I noticed she had a pair of pants on that I didn't remember buying for her. She confessed that she had forgotten to put any on when she got dressed that morning (even though I laid everything out for her) so when they all sat on the mat at school for 'golden time' it became very clear that she was going commando!! It still makes me laugh now!

So my tears are also because I miss having someone to share all this with. I don't know if H feels like he is missing out but he really isn't showing it. D made me take her out to dinner tonight which stopped me from moping at home. I also got to have a nice glass of wine....

Happy Friday everyone!


Me - 47
H - 45
D-16
M - 6 years
Separated - May 16

Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')