OwnIt,

No, it's not that. I'm just trying to figure out what is fair, while not being influenced by someone who was a total uncaring jerk to me.

To him, I have been unwavering in my love, and I feel that he is now trying to appeal to emotions has no business appealing to. Just yesterday I asked him for time (via email) and today he's calling my work line. So I feel like he is crossing boundaries (both in not allowing me time and in calling me at work) and isn't listening to me.

He ripped the rug out from under me. My home, my security, and the family that was to be mine: all gone in an instant per his hand. He didn't care what that did to me. (I don't want to give too many details away, but my career is very challenging and I'm in a full-time grad program and this semester was a bad one and ruined my 4.0 GPA.)

I'm going through a depressive period right now and I'm in no shape to be making decisions so this isn't helping. And that makes me mad.

Anyone could have seen this setting up from a mile away, but him. And now he's seemingly shocked and is looking to me to fix it for him at the expense to myself. That also makes me mad.