My IC had me write out a list of W's negative qualities to review when I start idealizing her. I kept the list in my wallet and W found it.
I'm so mad she did that. As soon as she read the list, she marched into my room and went off on me again. This time I defended myself and told her I wasn't the sole reason for our split. It felt good to speak to her honestly and calmly while she spewed.
Then she started weeping and crumpled onto the ground. She talked about how I destroyed her. Huh??? Destroyed her??
