Well, folks, I just left the office with a friend/colleague while she bought breakfast and returned to yet another voicemail on my work phone.
He had a nice soft tone to his voice and said he hadn't heard back from me, and "as you know" he can't carry the house, and he wonders if I'll meet him to discuss what I think is fair.
What the heck? Just yesterday I told him I wanted more time and now he's calling me. At work.
I feel really angry. Where was his concern when I was losing my home? Where was his concern about his finances when I warned him of this very situation?
But no, what was most important to him was to make it as acrimonious as possible (to which I did not bite) in order to end it. If he'd had even a tiny bit of logic/reasonableness back then, he couldn't have ended it, because it would have ruined his narrative.
This call coupled with him changing the password on the joint account makes me feel like he's hoping to control me. At the same time, it does tug on my heartstrings. I hurt for him. I miss him. But everything has changed, due to his own choices, and I have to worry about ME.
