I was a bit controlling the first year or so

She also feels I never took control enough

Those are two quotes from you, about 4 posts apart. It sounds to me like she's just throwing things out there to see what sticks so she can have an excuse for her behavior. Just my $ .02

M:23 T:26
Me:53, Wife: 60
S:18
D:16
filed 7/16
W moved out 4/28/17