Is it Midlife Crisis, Walkaway Spouse or the End?

[Sjs777]

yeah, i still get torn between whether its an MLC, WAS or Wayward wife, only to find much of it was counter productive. I am letting go and moving forward, accepting it will be with or without her. I am hungry for learning new ways or things to consider trying. I'm certain the reading, counselling and self growth is far into the thousands of hours. Here's what I'm finding... I feel i know more than I may actually do. Feeling a need to do even more. Ive certainly brought things to a place many months ago where we can talk respectful and laugh together without the old argument habits which developed as things unravelled (in hind sight). Where I think i should consider more is having her do more around the house - i was uncertain whether i should if she is in MLC, yet sense more so that she's a wayward wife. While she is not spending elaborately I wonder whether financial division would be a good or bad thing. I am in no way a vindictive person. We are however working together to pay down some debt jointly so that in and of itself seems reasonable as it becomes much harder once apart.

I certainly give her all the space she needs - almost too much, it feels, as she leaves for weekends and stays in her room much of the weekday

by giving her space, calm respect, and positivity around me, she no doubt is not rushing out the door quite as quickly otherwise - finances play a big part as well, although i never pressure, pursue, beg, demand or plead

I feel Ive stopped the bleeding and now need to take action to reignite a spark, if possible

Ive joined a band, which i used to do years ago (before we met - in fact she used to beg me to stop playing to go see her), and I have been working out daily for the past 3-4 weeks. I'm a little limited with further GAL activities in settling my dads estate and preparing the house for sale. It doesn't help that my vehicle has been acting up and has cost over $3k without resolve