Leaving it up to God (but still interfering!)

[Coly23]

Thanks SKM, AP (shout out for my DB buddy!), Job and OwnIt. You all seem to have similar experiences and advice! It's amazing how similar and different our sitches can be at the same time!

I know the leaving stuff behind can mean something and nothing and I know my H, he is quite lazy when it comes to doing something that involves a lot of work! I imagine when he comes to sort out his paperwork especially it will be like pulling teeth!!

So I reached out to H again today (sorry!) and asked if he wanted to come for lunch on Sunday. In a roundabout way I want to show him that I am okay with not doing the regular family time thing anymore but I am happy to invite him over once in a while. Also I want to prove to myself that I can say bye to him afterwards without it being too painful or wanting to make sure I have something else arranged with him before he leaves. This is how the text convo went (I was a bit surprised to say the least!):

Coly - Morning! Do you want to come for Sunday lunch? Xx

H ( 6 hours later) - Hiya! Sorry but I'm watching the football with *friend* on Sunday (last game for Spurs at their football ground). How about dinner on Monday? My shout. Xx

Coly - oh sorry I didn't realise! I'll let you know about Monday as D starts her exams next week. I'll still take her out Sunday anyway for a pre-exam lunch. Last meal of a condemned man type of thing!! Xx

H - That sounds good, I'll see if I can change plans for Sunday....no point going out during her exams. Xx

I am slightly shocked that firstly he told me exactly what he was doing as usually he would just say 'Sorry, I can't make it' with no detail and secondly he so easily changed his plans even though he made it sound important! Last game at their football ground etc... !!

Anyway D has been really grumpy because she is so stressed about her exams. She refused to eat her dinner tonight because in her words everything is just sh!t!! I am not looking forward to the next two months at all!! Wish me luck!!

Happy nearly weekend everyone!!