Sorry I haven't checked in for so long. So some things have changed. I'm not convinced she is still having an PA and maybe not even talking to him anymore. After multiple times requesting (and her promising) she finally removed the texting app that she promised.
I do keep seeing her drifting off to a part of town that she typically would never visit. The OM doesn't live any where near that area but I suspect he may be working up there. After I saw her go there 2x in the past month I followed her there the 3rd time (don't ask). I parked across the street from where her vehicle was. She was at a sandwich shop and had parked in the front. I couldn't really make anything out but I think she spent the whole time in her van with the window rolled down. There was a work truck backed in next to her and she was also backed in. This was a very busy location as it was lunch time. I couldn't see much from my vantage point. She was either sitting there on her phone or she may have been talking to the people in the work truck. After an hour or so she started the car up and left. I didn't see anyone leave the vehicle or anything odd. I was distracted and had to duck out of sight in my car so I wouldn't be seen. A minute later the work truck started up and left as well but it had 2 men in it. Still not sure she had been talking to them or not so no real conclusions could be drawn. I did follow the truck for a bit and neither of the men in it looked like the OM as far as I could tell.
She did call a few minutes later to tell me she had gone to that area looking for a yoga place that was evidently closed down and she never could find. In fact the first 2x she told me she had gone up there and then this time she did tell me as well.
Later that night I said that it was odd that she kept making trips up there and that toll tag reported each time as being between 1 1/2 and 2 hours that she was up there. They all just strike me as odd trips. I further told her that one of my friends who works in that area had seen her at this fast food restaurant in her van. She denied to me that she was ever there. I find that extremely odd...I asked multiple times and finally told her to cut the BS and stop lying because he saw her and her van there. She still denied it. I was angry at this point and told her that if I find out she is still having an affair, either an EA or a PE, then I will purse a separation or divorce. Further I said if something is still going on and you tell me right now about it that I would be more willing to work with her and talk through things. She continued to deny that there was anything at all going on and that she had cut all ties with him and was not seeing anyone else.
Anyhow, beyond that she has been more communicative with me and hasn't had any more late nights after yoga training or any other time. This past Saturday she actually came directly home. Sunday however, she did call to tell me she stopped at a Chipotle and had dinner with some of the gals from yoga. I do know she was there for a fact, but can't confirm or deny who she was with. She was there between an hour and an hour and a half. Nothing to stress about.
At home she has been MUCH more family oriented and has definitely been doing her part to assist with the kids and be more involved with them then she has over the prior 5-6 weeks.
Throughout the last few days, well really since Tuesday she has been REALLY chatty throughout the day sending endless videos and messages and being very kind.
I really can't tell if she is coming around a bit or just keeping me at bay. No relationship talks just light-hearted conversation. One of the things that attracted her to me was my joking personality and I feel like she is genuinely acting happier and laughing more often at my jokes.
So, in summary, I'm still in limbo, still not being trusting, still watching my back, still being a good dad and husband, etc. I told her yesterday I was going out for a bit. Just went for a drive in the country but she was definitely curious as to what I was up to and she sent me several messages...which I conveniently ignored. Trying to keep her guessing a bit.
