Nobody thinks you did anything wrong honey. It's irresistible when a man you are attracted to comes on all strong and romantic - every girl has that childish dream of the prince coming to sweep her off her feet.
BUT - I still disagree with this:
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I do disagree, jumping all in with my heart is a virtue, it's not neediness. It's a virtue I wish I didn't have, but one that is the make up of me.
Yes, it's great to have the capacity to love, and it's intoxicating to feel infatuated. BUT THAT'S ALL IT IS - INFATUATION. Real love comes later once you REALLY know someone. And succumbing to infatuation causes people to make bad mistakes sometimes. And often, the person who we become most easily infatuated with, is NOT the best partner, but the person who tells us what we want to hear, or the person who most resembles the parent we have issues with that we're still trying to work out, leading us to relive the pain.
Plus - that guy who comes on really strong in the beginning? Sure, sometimes people meet who are just so compatible they start a great romance right away. But often, that guy who comes on so strong, has ISSUES. He may be a love addict, who moves on to other highs once the initial infatuation wears off. He may be a sociopath like the guy I just stopped dating! (Sociopaths are experts at telling you what you want to hear.) He may be super needy himself.
In my experience, grown adult males with healthy boundaries don't jump quite that fast - they understand that dating is a process of getting to know someone, and you can't know them that well after a handful of dates.
So just look at the red flags here, so maybe next time you will recognize them sooner. And don't idealize him - he wasn't the right guy, even though he played the part for a very short while.
