The 1st time my W left me, she moved in with her mother. She told me it was over, that she no longer loved me and there was no chance she would change her mind.
We had a pet chihuaha that she left with me. This dog did not get along with ANY other animals. We knew we could never get another dog as long as we had this chihuaha.
Obviously, I was devestated. But I went complete and total NC.
About a month later, my mom tells me that W was posting pics of a new dog on Facebook. At this point I was NC but holding onto hope that she would come back one day. It turns out, the new dog was W's. She had gotten a new puppy.
The fact that she had bought a new puppy meant that she could never bring that puppy to our house because we had the chihuaha. I was absolutely convinced this was the final nail in the coffin. CONVINCED.
Through my pain, I stayed complete and total NC. Another month passed and I started getting texts from W that she missed our old church and things like that. I hadn't spoken to her in 2 months or even taken a peek at her Facebook.
Long story short, although I "Knew" things were over, I was wrong. She came back and explained how much she had missed me etc.
So remember, even when you are certain things are over, they aren't. Because you are still in the fight.
I know the despair you feel, it's the end of the world. But in reality, you have an opportunity here, 180. And so do I. We can become better men. And we can do it while our W's aren't around. They'd just be distractions anyway.
