180man Thread 4

[180Man]

Wife emailed me just now after nearly four weeks of NC:

180,

I know this entire process has been horribly difficult and I'm sorry
things have gone this way, but - as I said - I do think this is for
the best. I spent a lot of time thinking about what you told me last
time we met and I really think we're better off going forward with the
divorce. I know that this is hard to hear and - again - I'm sorry.

We need to decide what to do with the house and any assets we'll need
to divide between us. The paperwork below seems just to be a
preliminary declaration of what we jointly own - not a decision of who
gets what in the end. I'm forwarding you the blank forms at my
attorney's request below. (Please understand that I don't have an
attorney to try to "get the most out of you," but just because I'm
literally away almost every week until we deploy and needed help
with the paperwork.)

I'd like to know what you want to do with the house. As I mentioned
before, I'm going to stop contributing to the mortgage payment after
the payment on 01July - that will be 8 months of me paying for a
mortgage at a home where I don't live, which I think is more than
fair. At that point, I'll be deployed and shouldn't have to continue
contributing to a house where I'm not residing anymore.

As for my phone and my car stuff - I'm willing to pay for all of that.
Please just let me know. I haven't been able to get into our Verizon
account to pay off my phone or shut down the account, but will pay you
whatever amount you think is fair since I've stopped using it. Thank
you for taking care of my car registration, too. I really appreciate
it. As I said in person, however, I'm willing to pay for the cost of
the registration, as well.

If we still owe anything to the gardner for the lawn for the past 8 months
- let me know and I'll pay my half. I want the 8-month period to be an
even split, since I'm making July the deadline for me to stop
contributing.

I really, really hope you're doing well. You deserve to be happy and I
hope you are seeking that happiness right now. I'm just staying busy
with work and with getting ready to deploy - which, as you know, is a
full-time job.

Thank you for everthing - really. You've been a great partner all
these years and I wish nothing but the best for you.

-W

Giving her space and no-contact is NOT working. I know her, she is just going to keep pushing down this path. I can't do this anymore.

Meanwhile she has a new cell phone she hasn't told me about and doesn't know I know she continued texting the OM after asking for a divorce. This is also the first I've heard about July being some sort of deadline.

I was doing okay. Now I want to find a pistol.