Hello everyone. Not sure where to start. I have posted a few times before. Long story short I have been married for 23 yrs. it's been a very rocky last 3. My husband and I have gotten into a rut when it comes to arguing and things escalate very quickly. I have threatened divorce because I am at my wits end. My husband has filed twice before and I end begging for him to change his mind. He has filed yet again. This is the 3rd time. Every time he does this he states, "I don't want this but you do, so here you go!" I am not trying to place blame. I have done a lot wrong. I am working on me right now. During this last fight he was reaching out (blaming, crying, raging) and I was so shut down I ignored it. There has been infidelity on his part and I feel as though I have really struggled with that.
He told me on Friday that "he gave me everything" that he "misses me" "I don't want a divorce" " I don't want anyone else" and I was so hurt I just kept telling him to leave me alone. Fast forward to Monday, he says he didn't want to, but he filed. We fight like two wounded children. I am reading The divorce remedy right now. I am on day 3 of no contact. How would you advise me to proceed? I know about the LRT. So do I just stop all contact and file for divorce after I receive the papers? Not sure if that's right. He has stated he will only discuss things through lawyers at this point. What do I do?
