My wife of 5 years gave me the I Love You But speech in Jan. I fully admit, I panicked and I did everything wrong. I begged, I reminded her of our vows, I accused her of having an affair to her family (she isn't but there is a friendship which I believe is having an affair like effect). I finally stopped panicking, but the damage had been done. We'd gone from being able to be civil around each other to her absolutely hating me.
She says she never loved me, married me with the intention of divorcing me, she says I tricked her by being a different person before we got married than after, she blames me for our son, for everything that happened to her in our relationship is my fault.
I am out of town (visiting her family, who all think she should work things out with me and have told her that) and she called me yesterday and said that she has been thinking of moving out, in with her friend, and if she meets someone she wants to be able to date them (I had requested that as long as she is legally with me we not date other people). I then asked her if she had filed for divorce and she said no and that she wasn't going to.
I have read DB, DR, and so many books, and I'm going to meet with a telephone coach soon, but what are things I can do today to stop hurting my relationship with my wife, and buy more time so she doesn't move out.
