I'm so so sorry about the passing of your mother, and it must have been amazing to see so many people show up to celebrate her life.
With that, it's just a reminder that life is too dang short. Appreciate every moment that you have with those you love and be grateful for another day.... Just be grateful period.
One thing I learned from this whole nasty mess is that I will under no circumstances waste my short time on earth with sub-par relationships (personal, professional, etc). I only pay attention to what adds value to my life and what has meaning to my heart. If I'm going to share my valuable life with someone, I need to be with someone who is capable of putting in just as much work as I am. Now, don't get me wrong... Relationships will never be 50-50 as life happens and we need to trust and respect each other enough to balance that element. However, relationships (especially those of the marital kind) need to have 100-100 commitment. Period.
I don't think you and ww are there necessarily, but in order for it to work in the future, I think that's what it's going to take. 100-100 commitment to making it work.
I'm rooting for you and what you want. The question is.... Do you think she's capable of adding that value to your life and your heart? Do you? Pay attention to that.
On that note, I'm not prescribing any "my way or the highway" antidotes.... Just looking at this as an opportunity to start fresh and really build a new relationship (with ww or someone else) based on a different set off "rules and values."
You mentioned that we are similar on my thread, and if that's the case, you probably gave up a lot of yourself in order to make the previous relationship work.... If that's the case, then you know there's a lot of unlearning to do.
Anyway, it's late where I'm at and I'm just babbling. At the end of the day, do what matters to your heart, Pinn!
Me- 30's H- 40's T-10 M-5 I moved out b/c he wanted space- June 15 D filed by H: September 16
