WW won't separate

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Unexpectedly my W came to me today and said she wanted to discuss the D. She has not yet met with an attorney and doesn't understand the process very well or mediation. There was a lot of mistrust in her in what I was trying to convey. I told her to go meet with an attorney and get her questions answered.

Then the conversation really turned. She began to realize as a SAHM that she's going to be financially devastated if we D. She has no job or income. She began feeling very hopeless at this point. She broke down sobbing. She still is keeping a wall up about the A or any plans regarding that. Frustrating.

I didn't set an ultimatum but I did say there's a way back at this point if she goes NC and ends her affair. We can work on the MR for six months or so and re-evaluate. I'm willing to do MC if the A is ended and there's no contact.

I'm willing to move to D now if she doesn't change or in 6 months. I'm not assuming I want her back but I'm willing to try.

I didn't get an answer on that but I didn't get a no. I'm not hopeful. She's still in her fog I think.

I'm going to ease off and let this conversation sink in. Give her time to talk to an attorney. I'm going back to focusing on my life, running, praying, being with my kids and enjoying my life. I'm trying to take BluWaves advice and totally ignore what she's doing. If it's important then it will be a clear action.