They grow weary of the time and attention they have to put into the relationship. Also the lovebombing, the feigning interest in another, not being the one who is catered to. They begin the silent treatments, the hot and cold behaviors, lying, cheating, etc.
Mine quickly starting fighting with the OW (I saw the phone records). Within 2 months of him moving into her house, they were broken up again. They got back together for another month or so and then I think she ended it for good (she is borderline--they paint people black and tend not to go back).
The 7 tries could be the OW or even your own. Narcissists dont leave permanently. They always reserve the right to come back if low on supply. Some have even come back 20 years later. They do lots of temp checks along the way.
As with MLC, the relationship is over when you say so. Do you reaaly want to deal with this the rest of your life?
