I appreciate the concern, and if things appear to change in the future I will consider what you're saying.
You can do that. Like I said, Im worried that by the time 'things change', it will be too late. It will be your word against hers, and theres not a 0% chance that it will be the one who is staying in the home with the kids that will be the "tiebreaker".
Originally Posted By: RunRec
We're taking a trial separation as a break, no paperwork of any kind filed and no decisions made. I'm not "leaving", just giving her space, and she's aware that I'm on a one way ticket so I can come back at any point should things change.
Again, this is all well and good right now. I understand this is a trial separation, and Im not suggesting you need to file something with the government.
Originally Posted By: RunRec
I don't want to contact a lawyer
I would strongly advise that you do. I think it's important that you understand your rights. You dont have to tell your W, and most will give you a free consultation. This is for you to be educated on what pitfalls to avoid.
Originally Posted By: RunRec
so going against that and contacting a lawyer would be another act of aggression. Something I desperately need to 180 away from.
I agree that you need to 180 away from being overly aggressive. I completely disagree that protecting your rights as a parent is an act of aggression. Protecting yourself is not attacking her.
Id advise you to read the postings by BEClem. He left for 6 months on a trial separation and never was able to move back in the house. I believe in the end he lost tons of parenting rights as well. Just saying; Ive seen too many people have the rugs pulled out from under them and Id hate for you to be added to the list.
