As I said weeks back, I think it's possible she might start to miss you offering to help and start to want it again.
Not when she is screwing someone else, it isn't.
Well, I've backed off the offerings of help after we had the exchange via text. Unsure if the OM is still in the picture. Nothing I see points to it, but I'm aware that it may still be ongoing. W still seems pissed off all the time, even with me letting up on the help/warming up to her front.
W's birthday is this weekend, as is mother's day. W has told me she wants nothing for either day. W told D she wants a birthday cake, but did not tell me that direct. I've ordered a cake and D will decorate it for her. Grabbed a card for each day too, but not gifts, per Ws request. W mentioned to D 2 nights ago that she'd get the cake, but I informed W it was already ordered and I was picking it up Fri. Got a neutral response to it.
My big question is how her bday day will go. Ws big complaint last year was that she spent her bday all alone in the house (conflict avoidance) and that was when she realized she was done. Of course her bday night was the night she started talking to OM heavily on FB and then 3 weeks later was BD. I've offered to do something with her and D on her birthday and that was harshly shot down. Debating if I tell W that if she would like to do anything this weekend, I'm more than happy to, but that's her choice.
Who knows. no right answer to any of this stuff, so still feeling my way through the dark, just with a brighter flashlight than I had at this point last year. Looking forward to hanging out with D tonight as I had an after work function last night and missed her. She did facetime me though, which was AWESOME, as she doesn't usually like to talk to W or myself over the phone. Love that kid!
Thanks all for the thoughts and support!
Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18
