Same Sitch. New Approach... Feeling Good (part 2)

[Chris73]

So I'm coming up to a year since the initial BD (EA/PA for 5 months)

Here's where I am today...

-My W and I are becoming more and more disconnected.

-Her fog is getting thicker.

-I am becoming more critical of her selfish actions.

-My trust level is zero. She is still very secretive about who she spends time with.

-She clearly has an OM that she sees regularly.

-I am growing resentful of all the things she has said and done over the past year.

-As I continue to GAL, strengthening physically and emotionally, and placing my kids at the top of my priority list, I am starting to lose respect for her because she's not doing the same.

-I'm starting to fall out of love with her. She's a completely different person than the woman I married. And she hasn't changed for the better.

-I'm no longer fantasizing about being with her physically.

-I look forward to the times when she isn't around, and I'm starting to latch on to the positive aspects of a life without her in it.

For those of you who have reconciled and those who continue to stand for your marriage alone, have you gone through this? How do you cope with it?