....and you didn't buy the paint by number book for HER. You bought if for your nephew. Her heart does not seem like a taking one. It seems like a giving one......
^^^this...
Take in what we are seeing and telling you, please.
You say often that you "wish you knew" better, but when we say "watch out for your old ways" you act as if you are being attacked, and you shut down. IMO that has to change b/c my guess is, that it plays out in the marriage as "when Wsh does not get his way, he punishes/withholds. "
Saying you'd buy her something IF SHE...is clearly manipulative. I want to support you but this is so clear to me I'm not sure how else to say it.
I'm also not clear from your earlier posts where you were being taken advantage of by your wife.
Did she pile on a lot of debt behind your back, or did an ex girlfriend do this to you? Or your parents to you or each other?
How or why is being "taken advantage of" such a huge fear in you? How big a fear is it, compared to losing your w forever??
Look , Wish, you are being given a HUGE opportunity most LBSers never get...(truly!)
Use it wisely and lovingly, to show you are a better/different h.
From where I sit, I'd worry a lot LESS about being taken advantage of
and focus a whole lot more on showing true change in yourself.
Otherwise she can check off the list -
"I tried again, b/c Wsh said he changed and my needs were a priority - (but his fears of 'being taken advantage of' ruled, again, & Wish was the same old..."
I just think she wants to be loved fully. She wants to trust that you will fully love her and not attach conditions to it.
So, what do you want to do?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
