I say your best option is to go with what 25yearsmlc is saying. Clearly she has a full grasp of what your W is probably thinking. The hardest part is that what your currently trying is what society often times would push us to do. So I understand your logic. But it simply isn't going to work, because there are clearly levels that most people, especially us men never really even consider. Because these are things that are never discussed or even talked about.
Last couple of months, I have been extremely patient with my own W with a few setbacks due to feeling disrespected with her being in contact with OM. And it got to the point prior to discovering DB'ing to just leave it alone, making changes to myself and perhaps that would change the way she see's things. Hell, even this morning I was considering confronting my W about possibly being in contact with OM again. Glad I decided to think about that decision for 24 hours. Then opted to just let it go after just 10 hours of thinking, due to realizing that conversation would help nothing out. And here I was feeling like I had gotten too soft, until I read 25yearsmlc responses due you.
So I want to thank her for inspiring me to stay on the current path. Any help she could give me on my own situation from perspective would be very much appreciated. RunRec I suggest you do the same. Also you need to remember your W will test you, just when you think things are going great. It either has to do with trying to figure out if you've really changed or to make themselves feel better about leaving you.
