Because I didn't want her to take advantage of me.
Im sorry if Im being unclear. I do apologize if you feel we are being too severe or minimizing your progress. I will say that it is a little frustrating to see your responses as I feel like you are not really taking time to read them. Know thast we all want success for you!
I understand that you dont want to be taken advantage of. I can certainly see how it would be frustrating to spend a lot of money on something and have her not dont want to spend the money on something like the pillows because you dont feel the R is on steady ground or because theyre too expensive or whatever, then fine, dont do it. In fact, Id probably side with you in not buying them. But saying that you WILL buy them if SHE behaves in a certain way is not a loving or caring message to send. As 25 said, it comes across as controlling and cold. Like you need to get 'something' in return because you did something nice.
To me, this kind of reaction is 'more of the same' - you calculating the value or benefit of what 'you get' from her in order for you to do something nice for her.
I hope that is making sense. I kind of think I am explaining poorly.
