whew, I'm tired tonite to, guess it just hit me later than H, yesterday was his 2nd long day in a row, today is mine. I was just reading a thread I stumbled on "tips to newcomers to piecing" and found all kinds of good stuff there....It helps so much to know that I am not the only one who struggles with issues of trust and needing reassurance and grief at the loss of the "exclusiveness" of your M....I just hope someday I can get to where those wise folks are. I'm copying a post of Betsey's here so I don't lose it, I havent found slowly today, and this is so much in tune with my sitch. "I know so many of the things that work (relaxing, spending time together, listening more, etc) and so many of the things that don't (constantly looking for the next issue to solve, too much churning, acting like a time bomb, etc).
Relax. Appreciate. Observe. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Let yourself be loved. Open. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful. Share. Smile. " Oops, that was Sage's, another I wanted to "keep" . I'll try to find Betsey's tomorrow.
I find myself really longing to ask H for reassurance his A is over tonight, and needing to bite my tongue. maybe I will find that post before I sign off and copy it and take it with me.
